This morning has been a roller-coaster where emotions and psychology are concerned. The cold I’ve been fighting finally broke through and I had copious amounts of phlegm pouring out of my head. That might sound bad, but having it stalled inside my sinuses was way worse, so this is a good sign. I’m still ultra tired and clearly I’m battling some kind of bug. My GI system is a wreck and I HATE having to avoid dairy. So I haven’t been 100% compliant on that issue. My GI issue has been happening whether I avoid dairy or not, so I’m going to try yogurt today. Maybe it’s the gut health that is the issue and not the dairy thing itself. Hell, I don’t know.
Drove youngest to school this morning and it clouded over and snow began. I stopped in at Starbucks for a treat as I am so tired that I could curl up in the car and go to sleep. When I was cashing out in the drive-through, the staffer as me if my name was “Moonfire” (not really, but you know what I mean) and I was stunned. I said yes and she told me they got my review and their manager shared it at the staff meeting. Now ALL the staff know my regular order and my name! Her smile and sharing of this story made my morning. I was grinning under my mask and then I got all misty-eyed and proceeded to have happy tears all the way home.
It reminded me about what matters most to me and that is supporting and reinforcing people. I want to do things that help people feel better about their world and their work in it. I’ve come to realize today that’s why I’m dragging my feet on the fast-track way I was trying to set up one of my business ideas. It’s all well and good, but it doesn’t fit with my needs for work. The original idea that my business partner and I want to pursue is more in alignment with my psychological makeup and that’s why it feels like the right thing. This other path? Yeah, not so much.
It’s making me step back and think on what actions I’m doing and what I want to pursue as I move forward. I guess it’s true that you never stop learning as you move through life… not if you’re paying attention. And to be clear, it’s not about being “liked” or getting recognition for something I’ve done. I’m super grateful that the nice woman at Starbuck’s shared that story today because it contained within it a lesson I needed at just that moment. I have been feeling awfully blue recently and my sense of direction was off. Just that one little interaction today reminded me of what is important to me and the why of it. It’s all well and good to say that I want to start my own business and pursue that, but if the business model itself doesn’t align with my values and my best self, then it’s not something I want to use my very limited time on.
So it snowed while my epiphany was happening this morning and then I went into my weekly check-in meeting with my boss today and I got to share that story with her and her reaction to it was just like mine… meaning we were both smiling and teary over it. We’re SO similar and in some ways that’s why we’ve butted heads a couple of times. This morning, as always, reminded me about why we’re such a good team. We work really well together when we work in sync and don’t try to guess what the other needs. Ultimately, the people that I work with are the reason that I won’t leave the job, even if it’s sometimes hard to face the long term financial impacts of that decision.
Now it’s sunny out and the blue sky is bright, with fluffy white clouds puffing along. It’s almost unbelievable to see the difference between this morning and now. Early afternoon looks like an early spring day and I guess that is a great metaphor for how I’m feeling. I’ve been down in the dumps for the last couple of weeks, trying to hang on and worrying that I won’t be able to find my footing in the balance between all my competing needs. Then along comes this one small interaction and the bit of insight I gained from it has brightened my outlook.
I may or may not pull off the business plan. I can’t be on my ADHD meds right now, due to my crazy high blood pressure, so my challenges just got bigger. I’m tired. I’m fighting a respiratory bug and some kind of weirdness in my GI system. I’m trying to be a decent mom, decent girlfriend, good employee, and take care of myself. I’m woefully imperfect and I feel more than a bit dumpy these days, so I’ll give myself a bit of slack and lean on the experience this morning.
And in a final bit of better news, I looked at my social security record this week, plus I pulled up my state retirement account. Things still look pretty bad, but I have a better idea of what I have to work with. Maybe I won’t be able to fully retire, but I may be able to get by with a small supplemental work income when I’m older. I’ll still put time and a whole lot of heart into the business prospect and see if I can’t make that happen.
Ahhh, here go the ducks by my window. I’m down to one female duck and three males, which is not a good flock ratio, so cross fingers that the family farm where we can get female ducks can help us get our flock ratio back to where it needs to be.
Cheers,
Moonfire